Unbearable

My dad has been really poorly for a while, it started back on April last year when he was taken to hospital after complaining of blood in his urine, he was diagnosed with Stage 3 bladder cancer. Since then he has had pneumonia in mid Jan, then this Feb he was in hospital again, this time they found a mass on his chest and took a sample, yesterday (2nd March) they got the results and came to see him at home as he took to bed for a week. The test results revealed he had cancer, they said either a new type of cancer or it's he's bladder cancer has spread, they think its the latter. They revealed it was not good news and that they feel he is too weak to have any treatment, having lost so much weight, he really looks so frail, they revealed it could possibly be a matter of weeks/ months. I really am devastated,  I can't get my head round it. I just feel totally lost but more so I am heartbroken for my mum who suffered a stroke (her 2nd) in June 2018 that left her with Aphasia and Apraxia. I just can't bear to think of how shes feeling, being told she's losing the man she loves and has been married to for 50 years. 

I look at my dad and I try to keep things normal and light, I try to keep my emotions to myself but I just can't believe the situation. I'm wondering what is going through my dads mind as he isn't the sort of person to talk about feelings and how he's feeling.

Please I would appreciate any help, any advice.

Thank you xx

 

  • Hello JoJo83, 

    This must be such a difficult situation for your mum and for your family. Your poor dad I am sure he appreciates all the love and the support of those around him. You have come to the right place to meet others who understand what you are going through at the moment. It is hard to know exactly what might be going through your dad's mind at the moment but you are doing the right thing in keeping things normal and light despite the difficult circumstances. I am sure others who have been going through a similar experience will be along shortly to share their experience with you. 

    We're thinking of you, your mum and your dad during this difficult time. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator