Mum's Lung cancer

My mum was diagnosed with lung cancer four years ago, (she is 85 years young), she immediately had chemotherapy and two rounds of Radiotherapy, she has been stable for the last four years, seeing her oncologist every three months for the last four years, on the 10 January 2020 mum had a CT scan we were told on the 17 January her lung cancer is now agressive mum asked for a time scale and has been given 2/3 months, she has been realtively well for the last four years, her tumor was always there but no change she takes 8 paracetamol a day for her pain but no other medication. I am really struggling with the prognosis even though mum is very acceptive and talks about death nas not being scared and what a great llife she has had. My dad died of lung cancer 34 years ago tomorrow (5/2/2020) mum was only 51 years old, and has pinned for him ever since, does anyone have any advice please how I deal with this, I see my mum everyday and its breaking my heart knowing she isn't going to be here much longer.

  • All you can do is be there for  her. You sound like a wonderful caring person. Realistically at 85 even without cancer that's a very good age to reach. Few make it to that age. You need to discuss with doctors of putting her through this punishing treatment is worth the risk. None of us want to face it but we must be realistic. 

  • Hi Emeraldstar thank you for taking time to reply to my post, yes I agree 85 is a good age, mum is dealing with it and your right I need to be there to support her, she hasnt been offered any more treatment as she isn't strong enough to take it, so its just us taking each day as it comes. 

    I have been reading about your journey and the difficult times your having with the treatment, I am sorry that your family are not being supportive, I know there are plenty of people on here who are able to offer you the support and personal experiences they have been through to help you, I am always here if you feel you want to 'chat'.

    My thoughts are with you keep strong X