Hello. I’m truly sorry for you and your dear mum. My dad was the same after being told he was terminal.  I found the best thing to do was to offer my dad peace and love and kindness and gentleness.  Sitting with him and just listening to how he felt and making everything all about him.  I spoke to cancer experts and palliative care experts and found out what to expect in the coming weeks, which helped me prepare myself, and ultimately, with their support it helped me to help him in his final weeks.  I read to him, gently massaged his legs, brushed his hair, I literally pandered to his every need and I found it a great honour to serve my dad for a short spell to his passing.  Find the right people to speak to - palliative care workers are angels and very experienced in helping relatives through difficult times. I honestly found that knowing what to expect was the most precious gift they offered me.  Good luck my dear. Be brave. Hugs x