Hey all,

My mum told me this week that she has been diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer and it came out of nowhere. She is quite young and it came as a chock for everyone. She is such a social butterfly and always the fixer and she is such an open hearted and loving person. Creative and soulful. She has now been told that there is a chance of living a couple of months to years. After doing some research if you are stage 4, you have between 3-6 months left to live.

I am a new mum to 1 year old and she lives in another country with her husband and all our family which is a 3 hour flight away. She is surrounded by all family and friends, it is just me that lives abroad. We will go and see her next week.

Her wish is that we meet as much as possible and she has accepted her fate and is of course devastated but want to get on with treatment and make the most out of this little time we have.

I am her only child and she was a single mom and raised me by herself a majority of her life - she is my rock.

How can I start to "accept" my part of this without being so devastaded infront of her. She had cancer a long time ago which was not aggressive and she got cleared very quickly. A big thing she took from that was that people put their sadness on her when she already have the sickness to deal with.

So this time, and as it will be different and our last (which I am still in denial of - I got the news 3 days ago). 
 

I want to be and do everything for her. How do I do that?

Thankful for any type of advice or help