anticipatory grief for my mum with brain cancer

My mum was diagnosed with a brain tumour in Nov and has had surgery to remove some of it. She is mid way through her first dose of chemo. 

We have been told that this is just to manage the tumour which is very aggressive and it will not cure her. She has been give 6-9 months. The tumour is pressing the left side of her brain which has really effected her speach and understanding.

I am now struggling to go back to work having been supporting and caring for both her and my dad (who also has dementia and parkinsons). I am so low and feel I can't talk to anyone about the dread I have at the thought of my mum not being here anymore. I often think about her dying and struggle with the guilt of those thoughts. I try to put on a brave face and be strong in her presence but when I'm on my own, my mind just won't shut off. I'm piling weight on and struggle to sleep properly.

Meeting with oh tomorrow to see how I can get back to work but I'm dreading it and scared due to my concent levels being so low.

 

  • Hello,

     

    I have just posted about something similar. 
     

    My mums speech and balance is affected too and she has no strength. I'm finding it hard to concentrate too. It's awful and I can't imagine how hard it is caring for both of your parents. 
    I wish I could help more but I feel lost myself.