Supporting gran with cancer

Hi everyone

im so lost and unsure what to do? My gran is 82 and been diagnosed with two types of lung cancers at the same time, been to all her appointments and theres nothing that can be done for her :( my gran raised me and i feel now i have to do everything i can to make the most of what time we have left but she keeps worrying about me as i work part time and have 3 kids the youngest being 2 she feels im doing to much, but how do i stop caring for a woman who done so much for me growing up ;( in all honesty i dont want to stop as it means im facing whats happening and im just not there yet is this normal 

  • Hello Jen84 and welcome to the forum. 

    I'm sorry to hear about your Gran. I'm sure that it's been a difficult time for you. 

    When someone we love gets this kind of news it's normal to feel all sorts of different emotions and these may change over time but I'm not sure that you'll ever "stop caring" for her. You may find it helpful to have a look at some information on our website that we have about coping emotionally

    I know that lots of members have found it helpful to voice their thoughts and feelings here on the forum and you're welcome to continuing posting here to ask questions, offload or just talk with others who understand. 

    If you'd like to talk to one of our nurses for some advice and support then they are available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    Sending best wishes,
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator