My heart goes out to you as my 74 year old husband has lung cancer and after three years I'm tired, but your Mum is twenty years older and sometimes it's best to let nature take its course, she has probably had enough and just wants to be left in some comfort and peace, have you spoken to Marie Curie nurses they can help at end of life and make Mum more comfortable.  Sometimes we just have to let loved ones go.  My Mum had dementia and lived a horrible last two years, I was relieved when she finally died as I knew she was no longer in pain and being given medicine to extend a painful life.  My thoughts are with you at this painful time.  Carol x 

Hi Tiredout.

I've just read your post and can fully appreciate how difficult it must be right now for both your Mum and you.

I think you're thinking thoughts no different to how others would think.  You're just weighing up the facts based on the situation, it's only natural to think about what is to come.

For your Mum though, I think it is comforting for her to spend her remaining time in your loving hands, she will feel vsafe,  loved and pain free.  

Hope this helps you... You're doing a marvellous thing that you will feel comforted by long-term. 

X

Thanks for your reply's 

it helps to know someone is out there and I am not going through this alone

all I can do now is wait for her to be home and make her comfortable and take each day as it comes and pray there are more of them rather than less of them even though this is breaking my heart