My Nana has terminal cancer

Hi all,

I just found out today my nana (mums mum) has terminal cancer (I think it's of the liver but I don't know all the details). She had cancer a few years ago but had a surgery? I think and was 'fine'. I don't know the ins and outs because I think she always tried to protect us a lot.

She has a prognosis of 9 months without treatment and 18 months with, I have just told her I love her and will be here and support her no matter what. My mum has a lot of mental health problems and a lot of the family is really upset (understandably) but I know my nana doesn't want this so I'm trying to carry on as usual and will process it later.

I don't know why I'm typing this, she is one of the kindest ladies to have ever graced this planet. She used to work in care and has spent much of her life looking after her children and me and my brother; I even lived with her at some point and she is so special to me.

I used to be quite a writer so am going to write her a poem, and I have seen that memory blankets are a good gift. I just want to help her make the best of everything...

Thank you for listening xxx

  • Hi ya ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... as a nanny with cancer, I know just how close nan's and granddaughter can be ... that's my granddaughter in pic ... she is my world ..

    All I can say, is hold on to every day ... make each one a memory day... find out about her life , bet there's lots you don't know... share tears and hugs... admit it's all scary .. but just remember no one knows if they have tomorrow... cancer or healthy .. anyone can be taken suddenly... 

    I'm doing the same .. making as many memories for my granddaughter Emily as possible .. l live in the day .. find something each day to make me smile .. and let your nan lead the way .. yes treatment may give a bit more time .. but when wer older, it can be gruelling.... so whatever she decides , support her .. that's what my family have done for me ... 

    Sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie xx