My Dad has cancer of the throat and liver I do not live with my parents but my sister does with mum .I find it really hard as Dad is my hero and said to me a few weeks ago to be happy and live my life to the full as his is ending and look after my wife and kids who he adores i promised him this.I feel like I'm in a nightmare but I know I have to be strong for mum and my sister I put alote pressure on myself I have this constant worry that when Dad has gone even though he's sorted  funeral out and has good pension for mum to live her life out im just worried what if i can't sort all ll the stuff out that comes when someone passes .I visit Dad every time i can but i know he is most probably preparing for his next journey to peace and a pain free life I have no interest in anything for myself related to what Dad leaves i love Dad and just want to make sure my mum and sister have a safe and sercure life when dad  is gone .I can't help Dad but can give him peace of mind but I feel like I am carring a heavy weight and hope people point me in right direction when the time comes to sort all thenpaper work phone calls so mum does not have to worry .My son spent his first few years of life with a life threatening illness and I coped with that and his is well now but with Dad the pain is different and i hate to see mum lost and in pain .any advice would be helpful .