I cant stand seeing my mum in pain

my heart is breaking as I watch my mum becoming worse by the days.

She wakes and shouts to me for help to even sit up which is ok I will do anything I can for her always.

This morning she wanted the toilet  but was in so much pain when I took her.. she just kept saying help me help me please, all I could say was just a few minutes mum it will get easiest once the pain relief takes hold.

Every time she walks ir stands the pain after is horrendous. Any advice on making this easier for mum would  be so helpful. Mum has small cell lung cancer that has metastasis to her liver and spine she is palliative care

tesuata 

Ravwn 

  • Hi there ...

    So sorry you've had so much to go through ... this is one of the toughest things in life we go through .. and my heart goes out to you .. 

    Look at Marie Currie home page .. and see the things they can help with .. or ask your G P , to refuse your mum there ... they are there for people with terminal diagnosis and their families.... please reach out .. take any help offered .. or McMillan may help too .. you can't do this alone, your not superwoman... just a woman .. and no one can keep it going 24/7  you will burn out ... 

    I'm sure Marie Currie can help advice on pain .. and although some don't want a hospice , they are amazing places .. there to make today count.. not just places to go in ... but you have to reach out .. no one knocks on the door .. though it's a shame they don't... 

    Let us know how you go ....  Chrissie xx

  • Hi.

    I am sorry your going through this please reach out for support. I have recently went through it with my mum, who sadly passed away on 5th december. My mum guided me all the way told me to be strong, its so sad watching your loved one in pain. 

    Please take time to look after yourself i did not as i was looking after a young child etc. 

     

    I know feel emotionally drained etc, you will get through it, it is hard.

     

    Take care x

  • Thankyou I will have a look at the page.

    The palliative care team and district nurses are amazing but I will see what else is there.

    xx

  • I am so sorry you have lost your mum. I know it is coming but it's still so hard.

    Thankyou for taking time to reach out to me it helps knowing there are people who understand what you are going through.

    I know its moving fast she sleeps so much already, which is better for mum just hard for us.

    Take care of yourself 

    xx