Hi there ...

So sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... that's no age ... cancer sucks big time... 

If you look on Marie Currie home page... they specialise in your mum's diagnosis and their families... they have lots of help .. you'll find their number there .. give them a ring, and write your questions down, and write down answers they give you .. as it's easy to forget .. ask them how to get help and respite ..   we all need a brake .. and it does the heart good too .. 

All I'd say, is try not to over think things .. you are doing an amazing thing with her .. she must be very proud of you... just having someone to hold our hands means more then you know .. it doesn't need words .. just being there ..  take each day and each problem as and when it comes up... looking at the whole picture is overwhelming.. ask your G P what help you can get .. reach out to McMillan and anyone who offers .. 

I must admit I've never heard of funding for hospices , they are free as far as I know .. funded by the public .. so maybe worth asking someone else .. that doesn't feel right to me .. maybe call them your self and ask for more info .. I know I'd choose a hospice if it were me ...

Good luck.. let us know how you go... sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie xx

Feel really silly asking questions but any help and advice would be very much appreciated. My mum has colon cancer that has spread to the spine and nodules on the lungs. Mum is on Lonsurf and is on her 2 week break. Mum was sleeping quite a lot before treatment but more so now. Mum has gone off food she is eating very little. Is this normal? All advice and help appreciated.

Hello,

This sounds very much like what we went through last year. It's a difficult time especially when the cancer spreads and becomes terminal. I'm sorry to hear about this. I can talk you through what to expect and look out for and I can support you as much as I can as it is difficult and I wish I had more support at the time. After I posted this my mum ended up moving into a hospice and she passed away on the 7th February. Let me know if you would like my support or have any questions. I'm no professional but after experiencing it with my mum it sounds very similar. Spend as much quality time as you can and make as many memory's xxx

So, so sorry about your mum is it possible I could email you some questions from private email, I understand if not. Many thanks

Yes! Please do! i only wish when I was going through it that I had someone to talk to and help me and I know it's the right thing to do. Please do get in touch and il be as helpful as I can x

Hello Chriss,

                    you are correct in one sense that Hospice care is free to patient,however l think this relates to lack of funds raised from the public inhibiting the amount of care the hospices can provide.Covid has seriously damaged fundraising activities which supports Hospice and cancer charities,which in turn will have an impact on their ability to help with an increase in demand undoubtably bought about by delayed treatment leading to poorer outcomes in sufferers.This pandemic will just highlight how much cancer care is devolved to charities,and the damage caused by their inability to raise sufficient funds,

                                                                                                                                              David