I don't know what to do

Someone of really really important 3 months ago had to go in this clinic for colorectal cancer treatment, located in another country from where he was living. Since August I havent had any notice from him and sadly I don't have any other friends or family contacts. 

Once landed on the country he wrote me that was going at the clinic and for internet problems he couldn't have write me, because in that clinic mobile data was absent.

5 days ago I've discovered the clinic where he is at, and right when i was writing the message to the clinic I started to think about my reaction if I'd have read a terrible notice... So i decided to not write 'em.

So I am waiting his message, everyday. every night. Sometimes I cry, sometimes I look our memories.

It is probable that he's staying everyday since 3 months at the clinic? And for this reason i haven't had any notice from him?

I don't know what to do, im so desperate. I give you all a big hug.

  • Hi Marco9987564,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm very sorry to read about your worries about this person. I can understand this must be difficult.

    The only thing I can suggest is to consider reaching out to the clinic. Some information might be better than uncertainty.

    I hope you can find out more soon.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi Ben,

    thank you so much for your answer I appreciate it a lot, you don't have idea.
    What is stopping me, is that I don't hear him since a many  months as said above. I have the big fear to receive the worst notice, you know what I mean...

    After what l said, some answer might be better than waiting like I am doing right now?

    Thank you again for the answer u are really helping me

     

     

  • hi there

    i can’t quite tell if the person you’re talking about was your partner or not but it sounds to me like they’ve made a break from you. Of course, I might be wrong but that would be my hunch. People with cancer deal with it in different ways but it is common for them to shut themselves off from things that they can’t deal with. Besides contacting the clinic or looking on social media, I don’t think there is much you can do. I think you need to concentrate on yourself now and what you want from life. You need not feel any guilt as you have tried your best to reach out. 

    Mall the best

  • Hello Slp,

    Yes, that person was my partner, and I've never taken into account this possibility, because I always thought that  fighting cancer is always difficult and most of the time needs some additional help, and there is nothing better than the family, friends and love. 
    But as you said, people face it in different ways. 
    I want to thank you for the important answer you gave me, and me, who was the person inside the relationship, couldn't have notice of this important detail. 

    I will also leave the idea to contact the clinic, since the person never contacted me, and this means that she never wanted do that.

    I wish you all the best and thank you again from the deep of my heart