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Meadhbh90
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Hi,, my husband was given months to live in Sept, then weeks, then they decided he might be well enough for a third trial, which then turned out , that he was not well enough for. At present , pallative care call in now and again, to manage pain. Its like being in limbo, not knowing how it will go for him. I know , no one can really tell, each person is different, but I am not sleeping, meeting trouble half way. Has anyone been in this situation

Thank you

 

 

  • Hello Meadhbh90

    I know that some of our members here will be able to understand your description of being in limbo. Not knowing how things will progress for your husband is difficult but it's good that you have the palliative care team on board as they will be able to support you both as things change. 

    Have you spoken to your GP about how you're coping with things. Don't be afraid to go and see them if you feel you need some support. Alternatively you're most welcome to call and talk to one of our nurses who will be happy to give some advice and support. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    Sending best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator

  • Offline in reply to Moderator Jenn

    Thank you so much Jenn,

    No I havent spoken to my GP, and I know I should, I am constantly looking for answers, sometimes I feel my husband is braver and handling his sickness so much more than I am.

    Thanks again 

    Meadhbh

  • in reply to Meadhbh90

    Hello Meadhbh

    I think that you are probably doing an amazing job at keeping everything together, more than you might care to admit to yourself. And I suspect that your husband probably thinks at times that you are so much braver at handling all this than he is. 

    Do go and chat to your GP. They may not be able to answer all your questions but I'm sure that you'll feel better for it. And of course you are always welcome to post here. I know the community will do their best to support you through whatever lies ahead.

    Keep in touch and be kind to yourself. 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator

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