Hello 

My mum was told she has rectal cancer last year october she had 5 and half weeks of radiotherpy and was taking chemo tablets in may she was to have a operation where she would have a bag fitted to her stomach but when they went to do the operation they found 3 more lumps which have spread a little bit they told my mum she would need chemo but my mum refused since then she has not been back to the hospital for them to check to see how active the cancer is. She sits at home in pain all the time she only has morphine and some other tablets as her daughter and my sisters and my aunt it is so hard for us to see my mum crying in pain and she has lost so much weight that i am scared she is dying she is in pain when she goes toilet and if she dont go she is in pain as well we say to her lets go hospital she says no when the doctor or nurse call or come round my mum acts like she is not in so much pain when she really is. We have suggested that she goes in to a hospice so they can help with her pain as it is not right that she has been suffering like this for over a hour and it has only got worse but she says it has to get worse before it gets better i am starting to feel angry and fasturated with her even tho i dont show it to her but inside i am so angry and scared that i am losing my mum. 

Please if someone can help or tell me what to do or give me some advice to help me with my mum i would be so grateful my family woulx. x