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Can someone please help: mum diagnosed stage 4 breast cancer

emmalb
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2 weeks ago my mum who's my best  friend was out the blue diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer and its spread to her bones... I just need some help or a little bit of hope out of this site at the moment I'm confused to what's happening 2 months ago she was absolutely fine but the doctors kept doing wrong tests checking for things that weren't there until she got worse... we've never had cancer in the family so I just dont no how it can get this bad... I wont cope without my mum I kno I wont... i live with my mum and so does my son shes our rock i just dont understand what's happening or why!!.... someone please help just a little bit of advice 

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    Hello emmalb, 

    I just wanted to welcome you to our forum. I am so sorry that your mum has been diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer that is has spread to her bones. You seem to be very close to your mum - this must have come as such a shock to you.

    I hope you won't mind I have slightly edited your title to include the words 'mum diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer'. This will increase the chances of others who have been in a similar situation seeing your post and sharing their story with you. Hopefully you will hear from some of our lovely members who have been affected by Stage 4 breast cancer or looked after a loved one who has been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. 

    It sounds like there is a lot for you to take in at the moment, a lot of information to process after the diagnosis. Feel free to give our nurses a call on this free number 0808 800 4040 - their line is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm and they will be very happy to answer any questions you may have at the moment and talk thing through with you. 

    We also have some information on our website on breast cancer which you can find here and which will hopefully be useful to you. 

    I will now let our members come and say hello and share their experiences with you. We're all here for you anytime you need to chat or offload. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi thank you for replying... thank you for editing my post and trying to help because I really need some answers... me and my mum are really close and this has just come as a complete shock I fill like we've been fighting for answers for to long to now b diagnosed and told its stage 4 is just too much to take in... for 2 months we was told it was multiple myeloma biopsy after biopsy of it coming back inconclusive they done a PET scan where they saw the lump... I dont understand how this can b happening when my mum showed no signs she was absolutely fine in August probably better than she ever had been and now this... I dont no if I'm angry or upset I just dont no anymore... if I can get some of the answers I am looking for I will call the help line in the week thank you again. X

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