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My mum has multiple myeloma I don't know how to cope

Chanx
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Hi my mum has multiple myeloma but she kept it secret and she wouldn't want to see me I fort she was busy when I entered the house after she had been admitted to hospital I was shocked I can't believe it and its the little things that have got to me like finding small pots for sugar milk because she couldn't lift i cant and don't want to believe it but the cancer ward told me I want her to come back home also thier was a huge bottle of morphine liquid and pills also she has lost control of her bowls I feel like I don't have much time left then I think your over reaction pls can someone tell me should I go see her n say goodbye or just go and make arrangements for her to come home 

  • Hello Chanx

    I'm sorry to hear that your Mum is unwell and in hospital at the moment. Some people chose not to tell their family when they're told they have cancer and this can be for a number of reasons. 

    I think at the moment the important thing is to just visit your Mum, see how she is and she wants to do. Spend some time together and hopefully she'll feel able to open up and share things with you. 

    If she's happy for the ward staff to talk to you about her condition then they will be able to answer lots of your questions and offer guidance about how you can best support Mum if she is well enough to come home. 

    If it would help to talk to one of our team of nurses then do give them a call on 0808 800 4040 (Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm). 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
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