Well as some may know my Father passed away August 20 th , prior to that Mum had  blood loss over time where she was taken into hospital and had 4 units of blood and 1 unit of Iron transfused the first night , the following day she had a further 2 units of blood . She was very lucky . 
We looked after Dad for the 12 days that Mum was in hospital , then came the bad news that she had Bowel Cancer and required a 25 % bowel removal - this was done last Tuesday and this evening I witnessed Mum in discomfort which has distressed me as It has taken my mind back to when Dad was ill in August , not nice at all . 

Ive come home but I feel guilty that I can't be with her tonight  to hold her hand , I hope she has a good night as she said last night wasn't so good for her due to the discomfort and lack of sleep - she's 80 yrs old .

I can't go through this again , I can't witness what I went through with Dad once more but this time with Mum. 
 

Our next hurdle will be getting the correct help when she gets discharged in a few days , we actually had to approch the hospital rather than them asking us , thank god I did as they say it will take a week to organise . If there's no help in place I'm going to say she can't go home as I can't cope . Has anyone had experience with telling the hospital " No "