Hi there ...

So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... cancer sucks ... if it were me , I'd rather go to a hospice as I know those last days / weeks are really heartbraking for everyone ...  and in a hospice you can visit as often as you like, and they help the whole family .. though I understand some really want to go home ... which is doable if everything is in place ... and help from the start ..

Marie Currie also help with this ... they are there for people with terminal diagnosis and their families... give them a ring .. I know they can stay through a couple of nights for respite ...  but please take on board your health .. mentally and physically... you need someone to lean on too ..  no wonder your feeling overwhelmed...  my thoughts are with you ...  Chrissie xx

I’m so sorry you’re going through this awful battle. I agree with the first response here, if you request a hospice they will accommodate I’m sure. It sounds like a bleak word hospice, but it’s far from it... they take away that fear, they can’t cure your dad, but they can make his final days manageable and it’s home from home in a weird way, you can sleep over, eat be comfortable knowing they’re experts and won’t let him suffer for a second. They don’t bother you or your dad with stats and things like hospital... they just make everything ok. My thoughts and love are with you, try not to be scared, love him as much as you can, that’s all that matters in the end xxxx

So only now got the courage to come back to this site. You were so right ...we took Dad home for 3 days but then got a referral to a hospice. Dad passed away on Oct 16th ....we have his funeral this Thurs 7th Nov. I thank God that we had the opportunity to go to the hospice...the 3 days spent at home were horrendous and I really do not think we would have coped any longer. Today I went to visit my Dad ...I still can't believe what has happened and it will take a long time to come to terms with this. Thank you for your kind words X

Hi Tillyj ....thank you for your response ...I have just replied to Chris's post and it is applicable to you also. thank you for your kind words xxx

Hi there ..

Thank you for letting us know ... that means a lot ..  I'm so glad he is now no longer suffering from this crule cancer .. truly at rest ... think he must be very proud of you .. and you know hospices are so so good for end of life .. they don't think of it as going .. they make every day count .. 

Now be kind to yourself .. you did your best in such heartbraking sercomstances...  now carry him in your heart .. you are half of him .. so carry him there through your life .. sending you a vertual hug...

Chrissie xx

Hi everyone it’s really hard for the person who is sick and for family.I am in same position- my mother in law has terminal cancer- in hospital not eating or drinking.She has catheter .Sleeping all day.

They are insisting we take her home as hospice will only take her when she is 2 weeks from dying.She gets severe pain in her back due to bone cancer and I am panicking how we will keep her comfortable at home.I do not want her to suffer severe pain- also when they start a painkiller pump she may need top up painkiller injections which the district nurses give- It is often 2 hours before they come due to staff shortages.I had awful experience with my dad 2 years ago - we looked after him at home and I felt traumatised and found the responsibility very stressful. I also cannot get time off work as this is my mother in law and worry I will not cope with work or make error .I could be up all night and then have to go work.Im stressing and want to do my best for us