father in law very angry at present

Hi My father in law has had Prostate cancer untill a few months ago had been told it spread to his bones, over the last week he asked my daughter to get is other grandaughter into the hospital where he is hasnt seen for 9 months and to our knowledge she has been visiting outside visiting hrs so not to bump into other family members, because of this he has become angry and nasty towards other family members even is wife, nurses on the ward and daughter, He thinks people are coming to get him to kill him, Doctors have checked him for infection but nothing showing on results, he is becoming unbearable to visit I went through this with my Mother whodied of lung cancer 5 years ago she become like this accusing everyone of stealing from her in the week she passed away and I just wondering is history repeating it self or is he angry because of his daughter and wife diowning the grandaughter I just need advise how to handle this

  • Hi there ..

    If that were me, I'd welcome his granddaughter at the same time ... for his sake ..  families fall out and there's always someone suffers .. he sounds like he thinks a lot of her .. if you all love and respect him, let her in .. and I'm sure you could all be civil for his sake .. I'm sure that would mean a lot to him ..

    We can't change the past .. but we can change the future ... my sister is very cross all the time .. she has late stage dementure  ... we know it's not her being angry it's because of the dementure .. we just let it go over our heads .. even though it is really hard at times ... 

    Chrissie x