help my partner found out he's got cancer

hi

ive been with my partner for 5yrs and have a baby together he was diagnosed with stage 1 kidney cancer just a week ago and im finding it very hard to deal with he has always had  a nasty mouth towards me and always dumping me then coming back but now its like everything i say and do is wrong and not good enough everytime i speak he shuts me down he told me he had cancer via an email but then i find out he went to his ex gfs house 2 days later to tell her to her face about his diagnosis n he wonders y im so upset he tells me he doesnt want nothing from her so why tell her at all then all he keeps saying is i think ur better off leaving the relationship and getting on with ur life its 2 much stress 4 u ull 4get bout me when u meet someone else hes so nasty and heartless all i wany to do is be there and support him yet he gives me nothing but attitude in return what should i do?

  • i know it'll hurt you but in my opinion he should go back to wear ever else he lives and give you some peace, especially if he hasn't told you where it is, remember this is my opinion it's up to you what you do, I've been married faithfully over 45 years I'd never think of doing what he's doing and I'm living with uncurable cancer and looking after my disabled wife she needs 24 /7care,, good luck with your future and best wishes... Billy 

  • oh wow im so sorry what your going through makes my situation snd like a walk in the park how do you keep going everyday i just want to give up and im not the ill one

  • i know I've got to keep going not just for me but for my wife, I've arranged everything if something does happen to me my wife will have carers coming in, funeral sorted, everything. I'm maybe stubborn but I've baffled my specialist by keeping going longer than he thought i would with cancer you have to fight make it hard for it, and you have a longer term hopefully a normal life span, there's others on forum been fighting terminal for over ten years proving Dr's wrong, hope you sort out YOUR life, again best wishes... Billy