Hi,

I am sorry to hear about your mom. There is nothing you can do to make her feel better, you just can't control how she is feeling and reacting to your attempts to cheer her. Maybe the thing to do is to  change the way you are reacting to it.  I think that is all we can do in a situation like this (my dad was extremely depressed and it was very hard to deal with). So, we can't change them but we can try to change how it effects us, easier said than done, I know. You said counseling has not worked and I assume you meant for her; have you tried getting into counseling yourself?  I did and it has really helped, first to deal with my feelings about my Dad's issues and now dealing with my Mom's. I also assume that you are a person of faith, based on your user name.  I pray for strength to be able to interact with my mom in a kind and compassionate manner, sometimes it is just "help me, Lord", repeated over and over until I get control of my anger or grief or depression.  

Please stay strong and know you are doing your best in this difficult situation.

Laura xx