Father died of Lung cancer a yr ago now cousin has cancer

My dad was diagnose with Lung cancer and given 3 months to live. He died 3 months later. I looked after him for two months and spent another month off work for funeral, estate ect as he lived abroad. I went back to work and when my manager decided to move me again I asked why disrupt me of all people-I stayed  another month then quit without a job!! I temped as a lecturer my former profession and just as I am starting to look again at full time jobs outside of teaching I am hit with the one year aniversery and my cousins diagnoses who is also like a father/brother ro me since I found out it is terminal.I am now in pieces morning my dad finally and now my cousin, all kicked off by attending my uncles furneral yesterday. I feel the people  that love and care for me are all gone mom, dad and now cousin will soon be gone. World seems so empty and pointless righ now. Because my dad lives in anothercountry we didn't see each other often. Suppose I need to go back to some counselling-just feeling scare  and fed up of loosing  people

  • Hi Milk, 

    I'm so sorry to see how much of an impact cancer has had on you and your family. I can't begin to imagine how difficult this must be for you right now but I just wanted to reassure you that you are not alone as many of our members have also been in this position and hopefully some of them will be along soon to offer their support and advice.

    If counselling has helped you before and you recognise that you are struggling then it may be worth giving it another go. Just remember, there is no right or wrong way to grieve and no timeframe for it either so be kind to yourself and just try to take things a day at a time.

    It may not seem like it right now but things will get better with time.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator