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Living with a dad who has cancer part 2

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Its summer I’m about to go into S3 and about have a whole other year of my dad having tests and scans which I’m not looking forward too. Since chemo my dads feet are really spongy so one night we were coming back from Edinburgh we had a really good time I wasn’t even thinking about real life I just felt normal. My brother and dad were just messing around when we got off the train just like playfully pushing each other around until my brother pushed my dad a little to hard but for a normal person they wouldn’t have fallen but my dad he did his feet just weren’t stable enough so he went tumbling down in front of everyone who just got off the train. We all rushed to help him of course but you could see that something changed in him. From one moment the whole family having fun and laughing to family worrying and upset in a instant. I guess that just life I just wished it didn’t end that way because now that’s all I can remember from what was suppose to be a nice day. That little thing just ruined it. But I have to stay strong because this year is the start of my exams that are needed to get into uni to start the rest of my life. I just don’t know how I’m going to deal with it all if anyone has any suggestions please just reply and tell me if you have done anything to help you through the journey xx

bella 

  • Hi Belllla123, 

    I'm sorry to hear that what was a lovely family day out ended as it did. 

    I can see from this post and a previous post that you mention you're still at high school. I'm not sure how old you are but I've had a look for some groups where you should be able to connect with other teenagers who are in similar situations.

    Hope Support services have an online support network including a private Facebook group or you can speak to someon via FB messenger or Skype for support.

    RipRap is an organisation that supports teenagers who have a parent that has been diagnosed with cancer. They have an online forum as well as lots of information about other support services. 

    I know it's very often easier said than done but try to take each day at a time Bella. Don't look too far ahead. Concentrate on your school work and on spending good times with your Dad. remember that even if Dad wasn't unwell, there would still be days that weren't great or when something went wrong so try to keep focussing on the positives. 

    I don't know if you have any kind of pastoral support at school such as a school conusellor, nurse or peer support group but maybe have a chat to a teacher that you trust and see if there are other services at school you can access when you have times that you need a little more help. 

    I'm guessing as you've mentioned Edinburgh in your post that you're back to school very soon. I hope that you enjoy these last few days of your summer break. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
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    Sorry to hear about your dad. My dad had lung cancer. What I did to help was understand my dads illness, treatment options so that nothing was a surprise for me. I did this by talking to Macmillan helpline both their counsellors and a nurse - did a little research too. We tried to keep every normal routine take time for ourselves-little treats after ever appointment. Take time to study for you exams your dad would want you to do well. If for any reason you can not just remember a lot of us have delayed exams and or uni entrance and smashed it the follow term/year. Uni and school will be there this year, next year ...

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