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Mum diagnosed with lung cancer that's spread to lymph nodes

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hi my mum has just been diagnosed with lung cancer that has spread to the lymph nodes in her chest. I have been told that there is no treatment for her. My mum doesn’t know this and I am finding it very very hard to keep it together. My mum is my everything. Today she is really struggling to breathe and I don’t know what else to do to help her. My mum also has cops and she thinks it’s has just got worse. It is breaking my heart watching her like this she is scared and panicking when she is struggling and I’m so terrified of losing her. I am at my wits end while trying to act normal in front of her. What do I do somebody please please  tell me

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    Hi there - this is very difficult for you I know. I would suggest you ring Macmillan nurses & your GP to ask for some help. Try to keep as calm as you can for your mum despite how hard it is. If there isn't any treatment that doesn't mean there isn't any help available but the chances are you'll need to ask for it. I wish I could give you more advice. Do keep posting if you need to. x

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    hi,

    i so sorry to hear about your mom. I was in a very similar situation to you. 5 weeks ago my mom was fine and she just had a pain in her lower back. After many tests she was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer which had spread to her liver, kidneys, adrenal glands and most importantly her brain. There was no treatments available but we were referred to the Macmillan nurses at st.giles hospice and they were so much help. I was completely stressed out worrying about her medications and her being in pain. I was completely helpless but they took all that stress away. Sadly she had to go the hospice which was the most heartbreaking decision to make but ultimately the right choice as we as a family could just be with her while they took care of all the pain management etc. She passed away last Sunday and I’m lost

    the hardest part was mom asking when she could go home and I had to lie and say in a little while but not to worry as we are all here with you. I knew she wouldn’t leave there and I honestly don’t know how I managed to get them words out without crying but I did as I knew she needed to hear them

     

    like you my mom was my world , my one best friend in the world we did absolutely everything together and now it’s just me and my dad and brother. 

    All incan say to you is get in touch with Macmillan if the hospital doesn’t for you. You can get hospice at home where the nurses and cares will come to you and help with everything even just sitting with your mom at night while you try to sleep. When the time comes and your mom is okay with they will take her to a hospice and give her the best care but ultimately if she wants to stay at home they will be there for you every step of the way. I don’t know how we would have coped without them at the end. Before they stepped in we were so stressed and felt alone with everything and you don’t have to be

    im here if  you ever want to talk. I only joined the sit 2 days ago but it has helped me so much just to get my thoughts out there to someone who understands and won’t judge without worrying I’m upsetting the ones I love more

     

    lucy x

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