Hi there aimee ..

So sorry your going through this heartbraking time... and I know you must feel a tad confused at the moment .. if I were you I'd go on Marie Currie home page... and give them a call and tell them what's happening .. they are there for people with terminal diagnosis and their families.... there's lots of info there .. there's McMillan too .. give them both a call, take all the help they can give you.. 

And hopefully others will pop by soon with more help then I can give ... sending you a vertual squeeze .. hold on ... there is help out there ... Chrissie xx