Hi, my mother was 93 years old when my brother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer we cared for him together until his passing in January 2012, been involved with his care was very important to my Mum from what he enjoyed eating,reading or even going out  somewhere she would always have some in put or suggestion, when he passed away I worried how my Mum would cope with out  him, her way was going back to her routine getting  up at 7am 2 slices of bread, lunch at midday,tea at 3pm supper at 6pm even if she didnt want food she would eat and then bed at 10.30pm and she lived until she was 100 years and 6 months, in her way keeping involved helped them both.

I hope this has been of help