Hey there,

Im 17 and my Dad originally had bowel cancer and was fitted with a stoma bag back in 2018. Was given the all clear around Christmas last year after chemo, but unfortunately this year he was diagnosed with liver and pelvic cancer. He is currently going through more intense chemo to shrink the cancer, and whilst he can be treated he cannot be cured.

I understand how you feel completely As hard and difficult as it may sound, try to approach each day positivley for you dad. He would not want you to feel sad all the time hun, my father is the same. Whilst mine has handled his situation in a different way, I feel you and I may be feeling the same way. Make him smile as often as you can- talk to him about nice things and how you're getting on and things like that.

Its also good to have a family member, friend or partner to open up and talk with, someone who you feel comfortable relyaing your thoughts with and will allow you to get out what you need. And of course this platform is also a place to vent and get things out anonymously, which I have found to be of great help.

Wishing you all the best x

Hi misty, don't worry loads write on forum just to let off steam,. So sorry about your father,. quite a few on here haven't got C They come on to talk about their relatives that's quite alright, we on here know it helps to "talk" about things,. Hopefully others will join you to talk soon,. Make sure you look after yourself as well,. Best wishes.

Billy 

thank you guys. So my dads operation got cancelled today. Hopping to have it done by the end of the week fingers crossed . I just feel why him ? . Cleaned his house top to bottom today . Just to keep myself busy while he is in hospital. I feel guilty having to bin all the food in his house as he can’t eat anything anymore. Might see if the food banks will take it . Dad had a melt down yesterday and he felt embarrassed but told him it’s ok to cry and get angry . I admitted I had a melt down on Friday so he didn’t feel alone . Anyone on here got a stomach peg fitted just like to know what are the dos and don’ts  . 

Hi 

I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad,

how did the peg fitting go? 

I know a little about how you’re feeling my husband got diagnosed with tongue cancer in May 2017 after intense radio and chemo got the all clear. Unfortunately March 2018 the cancer came back and was terminal. They gave him 12 months to live. He’s just recently had a peg fitted 2 weeks ago as he’s lost a lot of weight and his swollow. I feel helpless 

no one really tells you what to expect next it’s horrible

he’s just starting to get used to the peg but has developed a nasty cough and they said he’s aspirating. 

Sending you lots of love