Hello Northernrachels, 

I am so sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis and that she has now exhausted all treatment options. Don't feel guilty about the way you are reacting it is perfectly normal to try and carry on with life as normal whilst feeling deep down that you are upset and frightened. So many on our forum will recognize these often troubling emotions and I am sure they will be along soon to reassure you that this is to be expected in your situation. It must be all the more difficult for you as you have so much to deal with on your own as you have no siblings. 

We have a useful page on our website on how to support someone with cancer which will show you the complexity of the emotions involved and I am sure you will recognize yourself in some of the ones that are listed. It is important also not to forget to take care of yourself and you can read more about this here. 

I hope others who have been in this position before will come and share their own experience with you and tell you more about the emotions they themselves felt when supporting a loved one with cancer. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator