Hi there ..

I can only tell you of my journey ... I was 63 at the time .. like your mum , I knew I had a lump 2 years prior ... I'd had 4 call backs for non cancer lumps .. but just knew this was different .. it got picked up on a chest x ray .. now my lump by then was near comming through the skin .. 

My niece came with me .. they said I had a grade 3 cancer ... because of my on going health problems .. my surgeons gave me all the facts .. and gave me 10 days to decide what if any treatment I would have .. talking with my niece .. I was told the lump once it comes through the skin, would smell .. and that smell cannot be masked ..  so to me that was a no brainer .. I agreed to a full right masectomy ... which was relatively pain free for me .. l was lucky it was contained ... so didn't have to refuse the chemo .. which I would have had due to health any way .. I refused radiotherapy for the same reason ... 

But agreed to take tamoxifen for about 5 years .. I'm still here two years down the line and doing well ..

But your mum needs all the facts .. if she chooses nothing or like me surgery... it has to be her decision .. she doesn't have to have chemo .. if she is adamant she doesn't want it ... everyone should have what they want .. I was lucky .. my family supported me in what ever I chose .. that really helped ... she's a lovely age .. and I can see just where she's comming from ... bless her ..

I hope whatever she decides .. she sticks to, without regret ... you sound like an amazing daughter .. and she must be very proud of you ...

Chrissie xx