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My mum has stage 4 breast cancer - any advice?

MDean
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Hi to anyone reading, 

my mum was diagnosed 17 years ago with breast cancer - she had cancer and it was removed. 

It was August 2018 where my mum felt a lump on her breast again - so we went and got it checked out. Plenty of CT scans - then a PET scan and it confirmed the cancer was back and now spread to her bones, liver and back. 

She is currently taking palcollib and leterzole - she has lost weight and gets tired so damn quickly. It’s so hard seeing her like this. Some days you can’t even tell she’s got cancer as she’s out and about but then all of a sudden bam she’s bed bound - is this normal?

i guess I came on this forum just to speak with other people who have got the same cancer and just share your experience? 

Is there anything you advise which has worked the cancer to slow down? I know herbal remedies scientifically are not proven to affect the cancer but I do believe it does so I’ve cut out all meat + sugar out of my  mums diet. Is this stupid thing to do? 

Please share your opinions I would love to hear them. 

For all those who currently have cancer - I salute you. I find it so hard to see my mum like this and i can’t even imagine how she is going through it. 

Thanks for reading 

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    Hi there ..

    Sorry no one's picked your thread up but there's been lots of threads latly and some get over looked ..

    Yes your mum is perfectly normal .. as in that's why we call it a rollercoaster ride .. up one day .. crashing down the next .. and trust me, cancer takes its toll on young fit ones as well as oldies ... 

    Your mum's cancer sounds extensive .. she will need lots of rest days .. just sit and chat on those days .. or watch a film ... or ask about her life growing up .. how she felt when she first held you .. 

    On good days she may want to do a little more... but will get exorsted quickly .. it's just time now, to go with how she is .. ask her what she wants to do, and if it's rest .. rest with her .. life moves too fast now any way ... make the most of each day ..  

    You know even Paul McCartney with all his money couldn't find a cure .. sometimes it best to ask how much percentage of doing treatment or not doing treatment .. sometimes quality over quantity .. at let her choose .. l know if my cancer goes in my bones, I'll just make every day count .. but it's for your mum and you to support whatever she decides ... some people look everywhere for so called "cures" and waste what time they have left ..

    Sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie xx

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