My father is in hospice dying of terminal cancer. Dealing with his illness is very difficult and it pains me to see a man who has always been so strong wither away to a frail old man, he is only 56. He is constantly in pain and has told me several times that he wants to die. He took a turn for the worse a week ago, and when he came through it he has been left even more severely weakened. He asked the doctors why did they let him live. He will not let them give him fluids, antibiotics or a stomach tube for feeding (he struggles to swallow) And at times refuses pain meds because he think the pain will kill him quicker- he has said this to doctors.  

On top of this I have estranged family members, who my father and I both dont speak to, trying to contact him, which is making him more agitated, and trying to contact me. I know that this contact has been initiated by my paternal aunt (whom we both are not in contact with) .

Im nearly positive my aunt is using my 2nd cousin to pump me for information in regards to my father via social media. I didn’t realise this at first and gave her a few details, as she claimed she was asking on behalf of her father and I find it difficult to be rude. But now she keeps asking about him every day and I don’t know how to politely get rid of her.

My father has been very clear in his lucid moments that he doesn’t want any family near him except for my husband, myself and his nephew.