Hi missy welcome to the forum i know it's not a nice place to be, most on here either have or know someone with C. it does help to write on here if anyone can help they will, there are some with kidney problems, hopefully they will get in touch with you soon best wishes.

Billy 

Thank u so much 

Hi Missy,

Speaking as a dad, I know telling my children was the one thing I dreaded. My wife beat me to the punch, telling them the same day I told her - I was in hospital already at the the time. I’m having the whole of one of my kidneys out next week. 

Your anxiety is complete normal from my experience.

My oldest son is 19 and openly admits the situation upsets him, causing his tics to return. Like his brother, he has high-functioning autism so sees a mental health specialist anyway. It gives him someone uninvolved to talk to but talks to me about it as well.

The youngest (16) doesn’t speak about it at all. To anyone. He’s like Kevin & Perry, the old Harry Enfield sketches. Grunts when we see him or talks to me about football, football and politics. Anything but cancer, in fact. It worries me as I imagine he’s bottling it up inside but he has to be ready to chat.

I can’t speak for your dad, but I struggle not knowing how one of my brood feels. I don’t know if you’ve spoken to him about it but the worst thing would be thinking you can’t because you don’t want to upset him or add to his worries. 

He might be as worried and anxious about you, about how you’re coping or what you’re feeling.