Hi there,

So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... life and cancer can be so crule ...

You sound an amazing wife / mother / and sister in law... but one thing l have learned on my cancer journey is no one should be strong for the rest .. that will make it overwhelming.... these journeys can bring everyone together , all holding each other's hand, not holding them up .. sharing tears, hugs, thoughts, and admitting it's scary ... 

Even your children will pick up on things, and although we try to protect them, they need gentle honesty .. that their uncle is very poorly ... and to try to answer their questions with gentle honesty .. with just enough information and not more then they ask for ... when I was at my lowest point, and my granddaughter asked me if I was going to die, l said the Drs were going to TRY to make nanny better... but if not, I'd be the little star next to my mums brightest one, so I could look down on her every night ..

It's amazing how they deal with it, done the right way .. and she was only 5 at the time ...and you know if they see you cry, they will know it's o.k for them to cry, and show emotion because their mum did .. and your hubby is probly feeling just like you ... trying to be strong for you all too ...

hopefully your brother in law will have many days yet ... with some on here who were given a terminal diagnosis and are pushing those boundaries to years ... cancer wants to brake everyone it touches ... but once you can all come together, and make every day a memory day .. fill whatever time with as much love as you all can ... then we can all still two fingers up to cancer ... don't look ahead ... live in the day .. meet every hurdle / problem as and when it comes up ... and you can all do it as a team, together ...

Chrissie