Hello steffg681, 

So sorry to hear about your brother having been diagnosed with kidney cancer that has spread. I think it is difficult to read too much into the fact that he still has to wait another week before knowing there may not be any particular reason for that. I hope that he gets more clarity on Wednesday during his appointment and that he finds out all the details including what the treatment plan is. 

Your brother is very lucky to have such a caring sister and I hope you will get chatting soon here with others who have been affected by kidney cancer. We have some detailed information on kidney cancer on our site which you can find here which I hope will be useful to you ahead of your brother's appointment. 

I hope that the appointment goes well -  keep us updated if you get a chance on what you find out. 

Best wishes to you and your brother, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thank you so much for your reply. 

I'm trying not to read too much into the timing of his appointment I guess I have been clinging on to hope that its a hopeful positive sign not seeming all too urgent. 

It's one big emotional rollercoaster at the moment. Knowing how scared he is, seeing him in pain and looking at him like hes just the shadow of his former self. The thoughts that race around my mind I'm just so scared and cant bear the thought of losing him or seeing him suffer.

Thank you for the useful information my main focus is to be there for him every step of the way hes protected me my whole life now it's my turn to be there for him Now to be strong x