Mum diagnosed with incurable cancer - Newbie

Just wanted to join the forum for a bit of support. Mum had a sarcoma in her left bottom cheek in June last year but due to hospital failings only received surgery/treatment in November. She has recently had a CT scan which shows that the cancer, although tumor removed, has spread to her lungs and is incurable. She startes chemotherapy at the end of April. It has all come as a complete shock, and i cant help but think too far ahead. I am trying to be strong for my mum and my family but then i feel guilty that i am not falling to pieces every minute of the day. I am trying to be positive about the chemotherapy but with everything that has happened, I just can't evade all those negative thoughts.

  • Welcome to the forum Becky although I'm sorry about the recent news your mum was given about her diagnosis.

    It's completely natural, and understandable, to be feeling this way and having these thoughts at the moment Becky as many of our members have experienced the same whilst caring for their nearest and dearest and hopefully some of them will be along soon to offer their support and advice.

    We have some information on our website for family, friends and caregivers, including some advice on how to look after yourself, which I hope will help you at this time but if you have any questions then do give our cancer nurses a call. You can contact them on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

    Do keep chatting to us if things start to get tough Becky and I wish your mum all the best with the start of her chemo at the end of the month.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator