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My mum has been diagnosed with stomach cancer it has been about 8 weeks ago It started with feeling full after eating a small amount of food she had a barium meal then an endoscopy and finally a CT scan that showed mom has a large inoperable tumour and the worse news possible that it has spread virtually everywhere liver kidney bones She has since had Palliative care at home Her deteriaton has been so quick she has lost an immense amount of weight and is so weak she is constantly vomiting day and night she is only on fluids now and as soon as she drinks it it all comes back up like a tap it is awful to see I don't know how she keeps going she is so brave I am so scared of what is to come and how quick it will be I'm not ready to let her go my mom is my life I can't imagine life without her There is only me to look after her I am currently off work long term sick to look after her but it is so hard I feel exhausted most days and so sad it is breaking my heart 

My dad died only 2 years ago from pancreatic cancer from day of diagnosis he passed away 11 weeks later myself and mom cared for him at home his last 5 days were in a hospice which both myself and mom regret I just hope I can find the strength to be there for mom and continue to look after till the end 

I just feel so alone it is like your whole life is consumed by cancer as if nothing will ever be normal again which it won't ever be. Cancer is so cruel nobody deserves to suffer as so many people do with this evil disease 

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    Hi ya ...

    Oh my, your really having a hard time right now ... no one can keep going 24/7 ... you need some help .. go on Marie Currie home page and you will see their number to call and what they do for people with terminal diagnosis and their families .... they can be there and care through some nights to give you a little time to sleep, or do things ..

    It's really amazing trying to keep her home ...but if you did choose a hospice, you could still visit all day, but know she had care 24/7 there .. yes you'd rather have her home, but think what it's doing to you too ..McMillan came round twice a day to help bathe and care for my brother in law near the end ..

    Call them all ...reach out ... help is there .. get in touch with g.p and ask if your district nurse can come out to you for a chat on what help they can give you ... tell them you NEED help now ...

    Good luck .. let us know how it goes .., Chrissie

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    Hi there

    My Mum was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer 2nd Jan 2018 and passed away 31st Jan 2018.  It was very sudden and truly heartbreaking.. Me and my sister cared for Mum at home as it was her wish to die at home.  We had excellent support from GP practice, District nurses every day to change sysring driver and McMillan.  We also had night sitters a couple of nights (some of which are registered nurses so they were able to adminster medication when Mum was getting anxious).  Please get some support.

    Take care

     

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    Hi That was terribly quick I don't know how you managed to cope I hope I can be as strong as you and your sister and keep mom at home till the end Our GP isn't that good they don't seem to bother these days and our experience with then District Nurses hasn't been that great one lady who came in yesterday to give mom an anemia said to us there is no way we can come out every day to you our worj load is full to capacity !!!! I couldn't believe what I was hearing and she told mom how ill she looked!!! Even our palliative nurse seems to shrug mom off like she is too busy It has made me feel that the best care is from family because noone else bothers Thank you for caring and listening to my troubles Kind regards xx

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