Mum

My mum has balve cancer in her stomach (if that’s the correct name) and it’s pretty much incurable from the letters I have read and the information she’s told me. She got diagnosed around 2 years ago now and has undergone surgery a year ago. I’ve kind of stayed a bit distant from knowing too much as it’s very touchy to me because my mum has been my world all my life. I’m 22. I just want to know more about it without asking her or speaking to her about it. What can I do? How long has she got left? 

  • Very sorry to hear your news… I have been in your situation and I know how hard it is when you can’t bear to hear information but you need to know, and you are reluctant to talk to your parent directly because it is too painful. The best thing may be to talk one of your Mum’s medical team, e.g. a specialist nurse. If you have the same GP surgery as your Mum you could also ask her to give the doctors permission to discuss her diagnosis with you. That way you are getting accurate information in a manageable way. Every diagnosis is different and the prognosis will depend on various factors, so seeking information from people who really know the medical side of things will help. With that said, go easy on yourself and don’t feel you have to understand everything all at once. These things take time to sink in and adjust to. Wishing you all the best x