Advice and Support

Hello everyone 

This is my first post. I’m caring for my hubby who was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer which has spread to his liver only a week ago but feels like a lifetime already. Ifeel like I’m in someone else’s life.

My hubby seems to have deteriorated so much in those few days.

He isn’t sure he wants chemo just to prolong the inevitable and to also maintain some quality of life although in just a week he can’t walk without support, shave or feed himself.

I’ve read on line that 6 months may be all we have but it feels like it might be a lot less

 

 

 

  • Hi there ...

    Oh bless ya ... I'm so so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment ..... it's one of the hardest things we go through in life ...

    It sounds like chemo, may make him even weaker ... if he wants it, then do what you can to get him something ... but if he feels he can't do that, just to add a short time ... then he has to be the one to make that decision. . Cancer trys to take away control ... that's one of the hardest things to this journey ... I was so lucky, I decided what l would and wouldn't have, and got 100% support from family and my surgeon ...

    You know just holding his hand will mean more now then you know ... just being there ... try not to look ahead ... live in the moment ... share hugs and tears ... and you know it's o.k to feel scared ... and to say it out loud ... this journey of ours is about sharing everything ... walking the same path ... you know being scared witless but still doing what you have to. .. that's true bravery ... 

    There's lots on here right now, in the same position .... your not alone ... you can say anything here .. we KNOW how it is ... we can't take it away, but we can hold your hand ...

    Sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie

  • Thankyou Chrissie

    Feel I’ve cried buckets today and laughed. We signed our wills this morning and then had my brother in law and partner for a few hours. They live such a different lifestyle to us ! 

    Then 2 of my hubbys colleagues came and they were a breath of fresh air.

    Not looking forward to tomorrow when the aids arrive for our house but I think after today I will sleep well and tomorrow is another day !

    Night night xxx

     

     

  • Hi ya ...

    I'm so so proud of you  ... your making every second count ... it's funny when you can do that .. let go of the future ... and hold on to the "now" there are a few smiles and laughter ...

    hope tomorrow goes o.k .. glad your hubbys colleagues had a good visit ... he doesn't need sad faces from visitors, bless him ... keep in touch ...  big vertual hug ... Chrissie