In turmoil

My elderly mother has been diagnosed with bowel cancer a year ago.  She was having more good days than bad however recently has more bad than good.  That’s not the problem, although that should be enough.  My mother and husband DO NOT get along, they both can’t stand one another   And I have since decided months ago I was going to stop trying to get them to act like grown ups   I give my mother the benefit of the doubt as she is ilL  However my stupid husband is Jealous of the time I spend with her!  He has said horrible things like, ‘when she’s gone, then maybe our life will begin!’   After that remark I don’t want to be with him at all!!  How insensitive   He is very insecure and never had a good relationship with his own mother   I need some advice please   We are growing further apart because of his remarks 

Thx

 

  • Hello there.  I read your previous post (which I had previously missed) before replying to this one and I was pretty much in agreement with the comments of the reply.  If he has so little consideration (or manners) for you and your feelings I do wonder what the relationship is worth - but of course it is not my call.  Will  you be able to forgive him for causing you so much extra pain (and of course no help) at this time.  He doubtless has his reasons from his own childhood but he is an adult now and if he cannot behave himself or at least seek help for his (not your) problems it does not bode well for your future life together.  But forgive me for being so frank - I would boot him out now as he has so little consideration for you - or at least tell him that your relationship will be at an end after you have done your best for your mother .  I am sorry you are having such a difficult time.  Annie