Welcome to Cancer Chat Kerrierobbo8 although I'm very sorry about the news your dad has been given regarding his diagnosis.

I've had a quick look through the forum and found that [@louisell]‍ and [@Lmcauley]‍ are in similar situations with their loved ones and hopefully they will be along soon to chat about their experiences now I've mentioned them in this post.

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Wishing you and your dad all the very best at this time.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi just read your post so sorry I know it’s a devastating blow to you and your family. My husband is only 54 we have 2 children in their teens , myself and his family have been so proactive with questions and treatments that might be available. Unfortunately we have been told chemotherapy no longer an option after 4 sessions. So only thing that could be available is a clinical trial as long as he is eligible. This form of cancer is rare and if metastasis to the liver then chemotherapy no longer works. Other cancers less rare have more chemotherapy options. I’m so sorry we are continuing to fight and will do until the end. Sometimes when I talk about our situations I feel like it’s happening to someone else and then reality hits as there is something else to knock us down. God bless you look after your dad and yourselves enjoy every moment spent together x

Hello,

I am sorry you are going through this, I am in the same position.

My Dad, 67, also diagnosed with Cholangiocarcinoma in Jan. Deemed as unresectable and offered palliative treatments of which only one bile duct stent has been successful and currently not meeting criteria for chemo. It is heartbreaking to see those you love affected by this cancer knowing the outlook is so bleak. My Dad hasnt even seen an oncologist yet which is frustrating as its hard to plan anything not knowng whats coming next.

Hi my father in law was diagnosed 11th Jan took them a month to diagnose what they thought was pancreatic cancer but then a couple of weeks later said bile duct and started chemo almost straight away. I thought he would be ill off it as this cancer is meant to be aggressive so I thought the chemo would be aggressive but hes just extra tired a few days after. I'm not sure hes been given any other options of treatment but chemo is until may 2 times a month then they will be checking what stage the cancer is at i guess and if chemo is working. He has lost alot of weight and it now a type 2 diabetic. He is also 65. We all feel lost he is severely depressed most days but trying his best My mother in law said yesterday she feels like he giving up and only holding on till may when his life insurance kicks in so he knows she will be ok but I feel like hes doing ok as hes fine around everyone else plus the doctors have said they cant believe how well he is doing and therefore cant give a life expectancy. It is heart breaking but all we can do is be there to support them. 

Hi so sorry to hear about your loved ones as this doesn’t just affect one person it affects the whole family. My husband is in and out of hospital had pneumonia and sepsis ended up in HDU then back in again with infection and spikes in temperature with shaking just came out Tuesday was up for our daughter s 18th Birthday meal. He’s very tired and doesn’t eat much just not hungry at all while being in hospital last time they gave him 2 blood transfusions to help pick him up, they also talked about not resuscitating which broke me and his family. I’m literally on edge we have oncology app and hospice are coming to talk with us. My thoughts are with you x