Hey

Sorry i didn’t reply sooner, just been a bit busy with everything going on. 

Mum’s funeral was actually really nice, obviously there were points where i got upset but it was a nice day to celebrate her life. The vicar at the crematorium said that the amount of people that came was the most she’s ever seen at that crematorium. So i take pleasure from that knowing she was liked by many people.

I just wondered if you and your mum talk about things? I would have liked to have talked to my mum and told her how much i loved her but she deteriorated so quickly towards the end and in a way we never actually told her that she was dying as we didn’t want her final days to be sad (even though she probably knew). 

I should be going back to work next week, but i have to have a medical to see if i can go back. I’m training to be a train driver so i think my company want to make sure i’m fully ok before i can go back to work.

I hope things are ok as can be with you and your mum still.

Hayley xx

Hey, don’t apologise, I know you’ve got loads going on. 

Genuinely feel so proud that you managed to get through her funeral. Must have been so difficult, but I’m glad you managed to see the good things in it, like how popular and loved she was. 

To be honest we haven’t really managed to talk about stuff like that. When she was in the hospice she asked me if I had anything to ask her. My reply was that I know her so well and am so close to her that I can pretty much know what she would say in any situation anyway. I also didn’t want to upset her by asking things. Now I’ve had time to think about it I would probably ask her what she would want from me in the future. Like what does she see me doing as a job etc. I don’t really need to know how to come about asking her stuff like that as I don’t wanna upset her. I guess were just trying to be as normal as possible. She knows how much I love her. And I’m sure your mum knew how much you loved her. Some things are best left unsaid.

Are you feeling ready to go back to work? Seems pretty soon but it’s just about whenever you feel ready. A train driver sounds such a cool job! 

Let me know if you want to chat somewhere more privately. Hope you are doing as ok as you can be.

L x 

Not too sure if i’m feeling ready to go back to work but just feel like i have to. You know when you just don’t want them to think you’re taking the p*ss.

We can chat somewhere more private - please send a friend request if you would like to, completely up to you. 

Hope everything is still ok as can be with your mum. 

xxx

If you’re not ready for work then don’t go back yet - *** them. You take as long as you need! I know what you mean though. But in a situation like this , if anyone thinks you’re taking the *** they’re stupid haha

Hope to chat more - things with my mum have gone worse lately- she’s barely eating or drinking now and is in a lot more pain than usual and I’m getting more and more worried. Feel like I’m really struggling to manage looking after her and going to work. Have sent you a friend request :) 

L x

Hi,

So sorry to hear about your mum.

Im 22 and have recently gone through the same as my mum and both Nans had Lung Cancer too.If you have any questions at all i will be happy to answer any i can or if you just need someone to talk to.. Never feel alone.

I hope everything goes as well as it possibly can :)

Emily X

Hey Emily, 

Really sorry to hear about your Mum and Nans. My Granddad also had it, do you think it is hereditary? My auntie (mums sister) also has it too. 

At one point they were both in the hospice at the same time which all the nurses said was very unusual/rare. 

Would be nice to chat more, especially knowing you are going through the same thing... how are things for you now? 

Lindsey X 

I lost my dad nearly 4 years ago, I went through the worst time of my life, so if u want to chat , please message me , sending love xxx