Finding it hard - BC diagnosis

Was diagnosed with DCIS last year and was totally positive, had my treatment and am now cured.

I've posted on the forum regularly in support of many and hope my words have been encouraging to those I've replied to.

Now only 12 months later my daughter has been diagnosed  with invasive ductal carcinoma and I'm finding it hard. Hopefully caught really early as she had herself checked after I was diagnosed and was clear. She has a CT scan tomorrow (is this usual?) and her lumpectomy is scheduled for the 15th. Other than that we don't know her treatment plan yet. Don't know any stages or other info yet. 

I'm finding it harder to deal with than my own. As a parent you just want to protect your children and I'd take the hit first over my kids any day. She's only 42 with 2 young boys.

My hubby's taken it really hard

She lives away from me and I think I'll feel better when I see her (next week)

I know I'll get support on here and hopefully Chrissie, Marlyn, Beachebabe, Jolamine will chip in and make me  feel a whole lot better with their wise words

Thanks in advance - Irene x

 

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    Hi Irene,

    This is great news. I sincerely hope that things continue to go as well as possible for her.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi hunny ...

    Well here's to standing together ... all kicking cancers *** .. it better watch out... wer comming to knock it out ... think we've got it on the ropes ..

    Your daughter is as brave as her mummy .. always thinking of you both ... sending you both a big vertual hug... Chrissie

  • Hi Irene...

    Just wondered how your wonderfull daughter and her spiecial mum are doing ????   

    Sending both a big vertual hug....  Chrissie  

  • Hello Irene my daughter was diagnosed with grade 3 stage 3 breast cancer in March this year. She has had 6 rounds of chemo the last one was last Wednesday. But is really poorly again and doesn’t want the final round of chemo due 7/8/19. The plan is for a lumpectomy then radiation and hormone therapy. She is 35. Any advice? I don’t know whether to support her decision or persuade her to grit her teeth and have the final round knowing it makes her so ill. She has three boys too 13, 9 & 2 

  • Oh Angela. I really feel for you and can totally empathise with your feelings.My daughter will have had 12 weekly chemo sessions and the last one is on Friday this week. I know when she was diagnosed I wished more than anything that she would avoid chemo but it was part of her plan. Her attitude was that she will have whatever it takes to get rid of it for good. 

    She has come through it well without most of the awful side effects but it sounds like your daughter isn't as lucky. She had already had her lumpectomy before the chemo and I know that each individual has their own treatment plan. She now faces 20 radiotherapy sessions and hormone therapy too.

    If I was in the same position as you I would remind my daughter of how she felt right back at the beginning.... that she will take whatever is on offer to get rid of it. 

    Your daughter has come this far and although I myself didn't have chemo I have been through radiotherapy and found it quite manageable.

    I know you will get lots of support on this forum and I hope my words help a little.

    I hope your daughter finds the strength to finish her chemo and I'm sure you are an invaluable support to her and her family.

    Please let us know how you all get on - Irene xxxxx

  • Hi Chrissie - thanks for thinking about us. My daughter is doing really well thanks. Her last Chemo is Friday this week......yippee!!

    She then has a three week break (holiday booked) before she starts her radiotherapy.She's felt quite tired lately but has still managed to keep working part time and the cold cap has saved her hair. 

    I'm so proud of how she's dealt with all this rubbish. She is truly amazing.

    To all my lovely friends on here you have all been such an invaluable support to me and I thank you all from the bottom of my heart.

    I'll still keep you all posted on her progress - love Irene xxxxx

  • She's truly amazing ... I wonder where she gets it from ..

                                 

  • Thank you Irene , your response is right. I’m hoping once she gets over this last round and feels better she will realise she’s nearly there. But it is hard watching her go through so much. She catches every infection going too which makes her so ill. 

    I keep thinking about late August when her treatment and after effects are over. 

    Fingers crossed she will either have the last round or surgery ....  and get the cancer gone .

    good luck and best wishes to you and your daughter for Friday x ️ ️ ️ ️ ️ ️

  • Just to let all my lovely friends on here that my daughter had her last chemo today.......YIPPEE.

    Still a way to go but now a three week break before her rads start. I've found this part of her treatment  the hardest but she has dealt with it all in such a positive way. I shed a few tears I have to say!

    Thank you all for your support and I'll keep you all informed of her progress as her journey continues - love Irene xxxxx