Is my partner lying about lung cancer?

I am so sorry to have to ask this, my partner has told me he has been diagnosed with small cell carcinoma in both lungs. He had an appt with a respiratory Dr after having a cough for a few months (this is the only part of this whole saga, I can confirm as true) and was referred for a bronchoscopy. This was done mid Jan. It took two weeks for him to get the results & he said they told him he had sclc in both lungs. He could not tell me what stage it was. He said he would not be accepting any treatment & was going to beat it himself by juicing, zero carbs, whey protein & drinking hydrogen peroxide. I asked that he take me to the oncologist when he received an appt. Nothing for another two weeks, which I thought was odd, I kept asking about it. In the interim, apparently the hospital had called him to come straight down to have blood tests taken ''to see if it had spread' He  then told me on 8th Feb that the oncologist had been calling him & he had missed the calls but had gone that morning and hadn't wanted to bother me at work. The outcome of this appt was that his cancer was in very early stage &  blood tests had confirmed that it hadn't spread (but it's in both lungs?) The oncologist said the treatment would be chemotherapy or immunology & radiotherapy? I have been asking him since if he has had any appts through as, I respect his wishes that he wants to do it 'his way' but he has no way of knowing if it's working without the drs keeping a check on it. I begged him yesterday to call the hospital as it had been too long, something wasn't right. He then '''confessed' last night that he had received an appt in to go to see about surgery and also immunology about 10 days ago but he had declined both. He then said his respiratory Dr (not oncologist) called him to ask why and said to come in and have an x-ray to ''' see how things are doing', he said he went for this on Monday and was told they would send out the results. There has been no mention of any other scans and surely, in a case like this, the Dr would discuss x-ray results there and then? Also we dont  live together, although he stays over at mine 5/7 before this, now 2/7. He has lost a wee bit of weight but not as much as I would have expected, being ill and also on a strict diet. I feel so guilty for suspecting him of lying. Can anyone help, I feel as though I am losing my mind with worry that it is true and also with doubting him. Thank you

  • Hi Sharon 

    I did spot your post earlier in the week but couldn’t reply at that time (have to nip on the forum here and there when I can find the space these last few weeks!) 

    I was so shocked at the thought of someone lying about this. As someone who has lost someone to lung cancer....I can’t believe someone would want to lie about having it. It’s just sick, really. 

    Glad you have rid yourself of this person. If he can lie about having cancer...he can lie about other things too. I try and be a compassionate person mostly but it is very difficult with people like this. I hope anyone else he has tricked into believing he has cancer are also informed of this lie...this is particularly important if this man has obtained any financial benefit from anyone who gave this to him as a result of his fake diagnosis...such as donations...money...(that would obviously be illegal). 

    So sorry - there is a lot to be said for a gut feeling xx 

  • Sadly faking cancer isn't that uncommon.

    Just google "faked cancer" and you'll see what I mean.

    This is about the worst example I've seen - she even made a small fortune selling her alternative cancer therapies which had worked so well for her! en.m.wikipedia.org/.../Belle_Gibson

     

     

  • Dave...would you believe...after I had posted this message I did google “people who fake cancer” and read about Belle Gibson. Funny you say that! 

    I couldn’t believe what I was reading :-0 xx 

    I then went on to YouTube...there is a “60 minutes” interview on there of her...!

    Awful woman xx 

     

  • I have been through a very similar situation and in need of support. Please contact me x

  • Hi Harvey if you have a look at hydrogen peroxide it can be used as an antiseptic on the skin or diluted as a mouth wash but should not be swallowed at all so either the name is wrong or someone is telling lies, so sorry about this but we're seeing quite a few people doing it have no idea why, hope you get sorted soon best wishes.... Billy 

    P.s also he'd have more than just x-ray, and probably biopsies. 

  • I know I'm like a year late but a very similar thing happened to me a while ago although it turned out she actually was lying about it and it caused our break up. Of course you don't want to believe that someone you're so close to would lie about something like this which is what happened with me. Because I hadn't seen any 'proof' I was sometimes sceptical but never entertained the idea that it wasn't true because I didn't want to think that about her but then I found out it was all a lie. If he is lying about cancer mainly for attention, there's a good chance he'll be lying about other things aswell, for instance when it happened with me, she also lied another having depression, anxiety, ocd, she lied about getting abused by her parents and her breaking several bones because of it and her mum setting the house on fire in a fit of rage, she said that her dad had had an affair in turkey and had a child, she said that her mum was back and forth to Australia and her dad was a raging alcoholic, leaving her to look after her two younger sisters, she lied about her mum sending her to gay conversion therapy and said that she got raped there, knowing full well that I had been, she said that when she was raped she got pregnant and had to have an abortion, which was something that happened to another friend of ours, and they lied about overdosing in a suicide attempt which is how we found out that it wasn't true as one of the people that she told, called an ambulance and sent it to her house and she turned out to be fine so we subsequently thought about it and realised that the cancer was a lie aswell. If he's being secretive about it then he might well be lying but he might just not want to worry you? I think maybe talk to him about it that it's worrying you more not knowing anything. I hope everything goes well and he either starts sharing more with you and does actually have it, if so I wish him well, or he comes clean about lying about it and you can take action from there. If he comes out with some unbelievable things such as saying that 'her friend in Norway was going to give up her life to give her her organs' then maybe have a chat with him about it if you haven't already. 
     

    hope it all goes well 

    -jd :)