losing my mum

I dont know how to cope,  my dear mum is slowly dying of cancer, it's so awful caring for her and trying  to stay strong

im really struggling, this is by far the hardest thing in the world for me , I'm so alone and feel desperate 

  • Hi 

    I understand how u r feeling.my year started with the worst news ever that my lovely mum has got advanced bowel cancer.We didn't even have a clue she was ill before.She hadnt been right for months but local gp said she was anaemic and just to rest.We don't know how long we have got at the moment.it is so hard to be brave and not get upset in front of her.I understand fully what you r going through.i even considered turning to someone like Macmillan just to get advice but then it feels too real then like I have to accept it which I know I will soon xx

  • I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. I know exactly how you’re feeling. Was told yesterday that my mum has just days to live due to her liver failing from too much chemo/drugs. 

    I’m so devastated, and to hear her saying ‘sorry’ and ‘i wish i could be with you all for longer’ is the saddest part.

    My mum is and always will be my best friend and i just don’t know how to go on anymore. I feel like my whole life will just be over now.

    I’m only 24 and so upset that mum will never get to experience things that i will go through in life and be beside me the whole time. 

  • I too am coming to terms with losing my mom and my bestest friend in the world - It's my worst nightmare and I feel like I'm just doing what I have to do but I know I'm going to fall to pieces when I stop.  My mom has gone from being her normal self before Xmas to being unable to walk, see, think properly in a matter of weeks.  I can't believe how quickly thinks have deteriorated.   Yesterday they told us she has weeks left after discovering last week she has a Grade 4 Glioblastoma brain tumour which has already spread from one tumour to many in weeks x . It's heartbreaking to watch and I'm exhausted trying to care for her and my dad as well as run my own home and business.  I feel like my life has fallen to pieces and I just don't know how to cope with it all .

  • [@Julie143]‍ Our stories sound so similar. My mum has been living with cancer for 5 years but ever since the cancer has gone to her brain (xmas) she has deteriorated so rapidly. 

    She has just gone into a hospice today and they say she has days to live. 

    It is the worst feeling in the world and the most annoying thing when people say to you ‘life does go on’. You feel like saying ‘yes i know life goes on, but it’s gonna go on without the most important person in my life’

    I hope things find a way to improve for you and i feel like the only advice i would give you is you must talk to people about how you feel. I am not good at talking about my feelings but feel like this has given me a little help along the way.