My mum is dying

Just want to let it all out. 

My mum was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer after being turned away from the hospital and being told she had a pulled muscle and then a hernia. By the time the diagnosis was made it was too late.

Since the diagnosis in September I took her and my dad to the church they got married in, their courting places and to the places they loved visiting  She made my daughters 16th birthday, Christmas and her wedding anniversary. We made some special memories 

My daughter and I support my mum and dad every day even though I work and my daughter is studying for her exams. I would not have it any other way. I wish my brother and sister would help but they don't. 

Up until now I have been so strong.. only cried when alone but today my mum did not know who we were and my heart is broken.

She only has weeks left and I can't bear the thought of losing her. I don't talk about it and I know I should.

I will continue to smile and tell my mum every day how much I love her. 

I'm not asking for responses . I just wanted to let this out

  • Hello Evf,

    I am so sorry to hear about your mum and  understand this is a tough time for you and your family. Despite this, it's nice to know that you have made some great memories to hold on to.

    Warm regards,

    Moderator Anastasia

  • My mum got diagnosed with lung cancer 13 months ago. She has fought her way through chemotherapy and radiotherapy. It wd never cure it only give her more time. Two weeks ago she was admitted to hospital, we were told the cancer had progressed fast and there was nothing more they could do. I too did not know how i wd get through her end of life care. Her last wish was to get home. Everything was planned for her to be home today, that was her bed and care plan. My mum passed away at 6am this morning. It was so unexpected. We were with her yesterday and she was slightly confused and tired and struggling to get her words out. I gave her a kiss, cuddle and told her I loved her. I know this wont help i just thought I would share this with you to know u are not alone. My heart is breaking and I have lost one of the most beautiful person i know. Sending u big hugs, cancer is a vile disease xxx