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Feeling Lost (breast cancer)

Lucyjane1
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Hi my mom has just being diagnosed with breast cancer and has just got a lumpectomy done and we are waiting for the results of of it and hoping it has not spread anywhere else.

I feel i am living in a bubble at times and dont know how i should be coping if that makes any sense at all?

There is younger kids in the house including one of my own so i feel i just need to be the strong one.

I have being having being put against the test in recent years and have came out on top but have being meaning to go counselling to deal with these issues, just the timing was never right, and in recent months it just seems it has caught up on me. But recently my grandfather passed away and then with the diagnosis of my mam and a few more little bits and pieces i am just feeling it is all just getting on top of me!

I have to be the strong person for the smaller kids in the house but i also work part time, so i don't know weather I should go out on the sick to be at home and help with my siblings with getting them to school ect and also so my mom doesnt have to worry about minding my own daughter. I dont want to stress her out with a baby either, and i would like to be able to help out as much as i can and be able to bring her to hospital appointments and chemotherapy ect,

Also i am not sure how chemotherapy will work with how she will be feeling ect so i may not have a choice (which i do not mind)

I am just looking for other peoples experience please

Thank you 

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    Hi there ..

    Oh my what an amazing daughter you are .. your mum must be very proud of you ... well every cancer is a tad different .. different stages and treatments depending what they find with the lump .. 

    All I'd say is talk to your mum .. you know she's probly trying to be strong too .. but to get through this, you need to let those feelings out .. cancer isn't about just being brave... it's about being scared witless but then taking it on ... and if you share tears, hugs, and really listen to each other you will walk the same path ... holding feelings in does not benifit anyone .. and not panicking 24/7 either ... it's all about balance ... 

    Now from what I know, most people on chemo can be sick and have very little energy ... there are some who it doesn't effect as much .. coz every chemo is geared to a particular cancer .. but logically it will probly help her if you can take over the young ones .. but ask her and tell her your really happy to do that .. if you do, call McMillan,  their phone number is on their home page and ask to speak to their legal money and benifits person .. it's free and they will tell you what you can claim for while looking after your mum .. 

    Any other questions or even just want to have a vent, or just writting down how you feel .. this is the place where we know how hard things are .. there's lots of us breast lasses on here .. someone will pick your question out .. and even if we don't know we can direct you to those who do ..

    Sending you a vertual hug ... Chrissie ...  xx

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