Hi everyone, I registered a while back but have never posted until now. My dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer after he retired just over 2 years ago. He was very active, fit and well so it came as a big shock for us all. We were told it was an aggressive form of cancer and they couldn’t operate as it had spread outside the prostate. The only thing they could offer was hormone injections to try and keep it at bay. For other health reasons chemo wasn’t an option for him. Around 3 months after diagnosis it was in his pelvis and ribs but has been fine for the past 18 months. He seems to have went down hill since Christmas, he has been given a catheter bag as he has been unable to pass urine and is passing a lot of blood. He is in a lot of pain and his PSA levels have went up. The doctor referred him for an X-ray due to the pain in his chest and breathlessness. After reviewing the X-ray, the doctor has said it maybe in his lungs now. We will need to wait until the CT scan and the oncologist appointment but I just see a big change in him. We are a very close family and my children dote on him. My mum is a great support to him, which helps with appointments etc as I struggle to juggle the kids and work on top of everything else. I really feel as I’m trying to be strong and put a face on for the kids and be there for my mum and dad, when all I want to do is curl up in a ball and cry, I know it sounds selfish when it’s my poor dad that’s going through it all. I suppose what I’m looking for is any advice on what the future holds ? I have told my eldest son that he has cancer, but not my youngest, I didn’t want to worry her. Should I start to explain things to her ?
