Hi Sammielou,

So sorry to read about your Dad's condition and the decision that it can't be treated.

Sadly it is always very difficult to estimate how long someone is expected to survive as there are so many unknown variables. People who seem certain to be gone in a few days often outlive everyone's expectations and because of this doctors are wary of guessing wrongly.

When I was first diagnosed, a friend who was a doctor told me that if instead of asking "how long do I have?" I asked "would you be surprised if I was still around at  ..." I'd be more likely to get an honest answer. e.g. "would you be surprised if I was still around at Easter?" 'No, that wouldn't surprise me' "How about next Easter?" 'Yes, that would surprise me'. 

I wish I could offer you a more useful answer.

Good luck

Dave

Thanks dave,

I hadn't thought of that and will definately ask those questions. Its just all very confusing as the say there's nothing they can do to help, it's advanced and aggressive and yet won't give a timescale. everything I've looked at where people seem to be the same as my dad, those people only lasted an average of 7 weeks.

I'm just trying to be prepared for the worst.

Thanks