Hi, my blog is on this forum under my Dor06 name.  I've picked up a few followers along the way and we correspond with each other as we are all going through the same thing.  Even those who've lost their loved ones during this time keep in touch with me.  It's just a daily update of how I coped and am coping, the good days and the bad.  Trust me you will cope, you will find that inner strength if you dig deep.  Thank you for replying.  Carol

Hi Almonds,

I’m so sorry to hear that you are going through something similar. It really is just the worst thing imaginable and a huge rollercoaster of emotions. I hope you find strength and try to enjoy every moment you have with her. That is what I am trying to do and just take it day by day. Wishing you all the best.

hi Tf19,

so sorry to hear. I have recently gone through this with my own mother so can relate all too well to everything you’re feeling. It is hard to stay strong when feeling so powerless to help but it sounds as if you’re mum is prepared to fight and stay positive and that mentality will carry you a long way. Feel free to message me if you ever need to vent as I said I know how you’re feeling right now but just know you are strong and and that energy will help those around you 

Hi

I am in a similar position. This week my Mum was told that she has an inoperable tumor in her lungs. This was discovered through a cat scan that she had as there was something wrong with her bones. She is waiting for a biopsy at the moment but her consultant said that it is more than likely that it is cancer . As it has been found from looking at her bones this means that it has probably spread from her lungs to the bones already. I am really struggling to cope with this information. My dad died 16 yeras ago and his loss messed me up quite a lot. I can't bare the thought of having to go through this again. I dont know how to break the news to my kids (12 and 6) or how I am supposed to function over the coming days/weeks. It is constantly going through my mind and I can't concentrate on anything else. 

So sorry you are going through similar.

Big hugs

Treebird xXx

Hi. I'm so glad to hear that you feeling a little bit stronger. I think I would have died if I hadn't taken time for myself. My mum was almost my entire family (all that's left is my sister and her kids, none of whom I'm very close to). We were two peas in a pod. When she was diagnosed last February, I already had a vacation planned for March. I fought with myself every day on that trip, to just enjoy the beach, the great weather, and relax. I refused to think about her. I came back with a very renewed feeling. Three weeks before she passed, she suddenly took a very bad turn and we were faced with some very real uncertainty. I was on a roller coaster from hell, every day she was better or much worse...I never knew what was coming - or if she might pass. It was during that time, that I really had no choice but to take precious time for myself. I went to a nature santuary one day, and just walked around taking in the sights and sounds. I went to two movies, both comedies. Laughing helped. I went out for ice cream. It's basically like mental survival. I wish you continued strength in your journey. All the best. Sarah.

Hi carol lost my mum 18 months ago through cancer as well , just like you whe they told me it was like being hit by a bus , my mum was my world I was the youngest boy and mum little gem younger sister is daddies girl , please don’t feel alone at the time I didn’t no about these forums I actually only found out about themover the weekend . Whilst researching ibrance as just before Xmas my partner I met last October wa# diagnosed with secondary bone cancer in her spine pelvis and skull and just like our mums it’s terminal less than 2 years to live ime struggling . Ime looking for answers possibly a miracle but under no illusions that will happen a d that my world willcradh down in front of me again. But she is just like my mum wants to be treated normally and just make memories together for as long as we can.god bless her she is the best thing to happen to me in many a year . Struggle every moment with he4 to keep smiling and not breaking down as I no that’s not what she wants , she has caught a couple of times in the middle of the night crying I really don’t think she believed me when I told her I just had Arjuna nose that’s the sort of woman she’s just puts her arm around says things are good . Just be there for mum try to keep smiling always around her , she knows how you feel inside really 

best of luck 

john 

Hello,

my mum had cancer and was told it was terminal (6 months to live) in june. We lost her in September. 

She was my best friend and I have two small children who she adored. I feel like I am grieving so much for what they have lost as well as my own grief. 

I just took each day at a time. Quite often I would take a minute before entering the hospice room to try and steel myself for what  mum would be like etc. 

Now it has been 9 months which is crazy to me. I feel like the shock is starting to wear off and the reality is startingto sink in. I miss her so much but feel so thankful that I was with her at the end. You realise how many other people have been effected by this horrendous disease and also I’m left with a feeling that I want to live my best possible life as this one life is all there is 

wishing you all the strength to face the next few months. 

Chloe