Hi ,you are not alone my mother was diagnosed with Stomach cancer just after Christmas.

She hid it from us as she said she didn't want to ruin our Christmas.She has been I'll for sometime,her treatments have come pretty faced and she is at presently in hospital after having her stomach removed.

My siblings live abroad and so I'm the only one able to visit and also keep them updated.

People tell you what you want to hear when all you really need is someone to listen.

So many times,the people left caring for the parent who has cancer are often forgotten about or at least that's how it feels,sometimes all you need is someone to ask how you are,instead of you asking everyone else.

I've gone through many stages,anger.confusion,depressed,okay,coping,upset, it's all normal,sometimes we need 5 mins to ourselves too to process and deal with it in our own minds and way too.

It's extremely hard watching your mum go through it and I honestly wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

Some days are better,but it's the frustration that gets you the worst.

All we can do is support our mum's and pray and hope,it's easier said than done,but we love out mother's so somehow we find that strength to be strong for them in front of them...it's ok to not feel strong when we are back home,let people help I didn't for ages and it made me bad,ask at your doctors if there are any support groups for family's who's parent is fighting cancer...sending big hugs your way,we can do this,you don't have to be 100% strong all the time it's ok for us to break down occasionally xx